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Alunah Full bitterslut status |
posted 03-29-2001 01:28 PM
  
How do you do this? How do you get comfortable with being by yourself? I am sick of it. I don't want to have sex, I just want someone to be there, and right now I am too busy with my own life to be with someone. And I have an FB (F*%k buddy) and he's such a sweetheart, but it's just not the same. Plus I live in a very Military town, and all that is available are divorced men and military men! What do you do? How do you get comfortable? I am just so damn lonely. I can't figure out how to meet anyone! Bars suck, I just turned 21 and went to my first over age club and it still sucked, you have to be like the buety queen to get any guys attention at a place like that. I have only been single about 6 months, the longest time since I started dating at 16, and I am losing it! Any suggestions bitter-ones? ------------------ |
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Shayne Full bitterslut status |
posted 04-02-2001 07:02 AM
Yeah, a couple of suggestions. Remember who you are when you're not with anyone, because that's ultimately what your real identity is anyway. Find something completely unrelated to meeting people and throw yourself into it, work, school, a hobby, whatever. In other words, quit trying so damn hard. They say it happens when you're not looking... in fact they say that so often it's become a cliche. Funny thing about cliches is that they become cliches because by and large they're true. Take the pressure off yourself and RELAX. You don't have to meet anyone's schedule, no one is holding a stopwatch on you, and if you spend all your time wondering why you aren't having any fun, you'll never notice the opportunities to have fun you might otherwise be able to take advantage of. Relax, chill out. You're fine. |
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Freak Lady Honorary bitterslut |
posted 04-03-2001 08:08 AM
I agree with what Shayne says. He's so wise! All I will add is that, from what you have written, it sounds like your life is pretty good at the moment, you say you're "too busy to be with someone" and there are a lot of lonely people out there who can't say that. So, concentrate on all that you have, not the small part that's missing. As a great poet once said, you can't hurry love, no, you'll just have to wait. And you might as well have a good time while you're waiting... |
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cristal Full bitterslut status |
posted 04-03-2001 08:38 AM
Yuk. I'd move. I hate military towns. How about a new adventure? Moving to a new town is pretty exciting, and not as difficult when you're single. nothing like a new place to shift your entire life. i'm sure you've got really good excuses why you wouldn't want to move, but ignore them. Do you plan on staying there all your life? or are you in the military? hmmm.... |
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Alunah Full bitterslut status |
posted 04-03-2001 02:33 PM
I know I have a great life right now, you know.... I am doing my own thing and all... it just gets lonely sometimes. Though I am proud to say I have to have one of the best FB's in the world cause he came and cheered me up this weekend! :> ) Having "good" friends like that are so nice! I do want to move out of this town.... I just can't yet. I am finishing my Associates degree, and then I am moving... but that will be another 2 years at least! Thanks for the pep talk guys! It halped me a lot! ------------------ |
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cristal Full bitterslut status |
posted 04-04-2001 12:27 PM
wait a minute.... from your other post about cheating, you said you haven't been "touched by a guy in four months." who's the f#$k buddy? it's not your best friend's boyfriend, is it? jeez. i'm so confused! |
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Alunah Full bitterslut status |
posted 04-04-2001 02:05 PM
sorry cristal, my FB and I just got back together this weekend. We hadn't done anything since november before. That's kinda why I didn't say no to my friends Boy, but then that same day my FB showed up too! Plus, my FB is more than just a sex friend. He and I have been friends for almost 6 years so we are always off and on. ------------------ |
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