The bad news is: You are not going to solve his little temper problem. No one can fix that except him. Please don't assume that you can! Listen to what "everyone" is telling you. Because there's a difference between being "a little stern" and behavior that provokes "everyone" to tell you to leave.

You are not too young to be in love, but you are likely too young to settle down with someone. Saying things like "i would do anything for him" is very, very dangerous. And naive. Don't be naive -- especially with men. You owe it to yourself to be a smart cookie! Someone who can recognize a bad situation, no matter how pleasurable it may appear. For example, do you really want to be with someone who is a compulsive liar? Guess what? You aren't going to change that. You cannot rescue Jeff from himself.

You describe his inability to accept blame for situations, but he's 19. He's 19. Keep saying that. "Jeff is 19."

"Jeff is 19."

Because Jeff at 19 is still a child, even though he's technically an adult. He's likely insecure and unwilling to grow up (hence the inability to balance a checkbook and take on the responsibilities of an adult). He needs time to grow up. People don't grow up at 18. There's no magical number that marks your entry into adulthood.

I also know (without knowing these people) that his parents DO NOT (i repeat...DO NOT) hate you. Parents don't hate their children's friends. They only try to protect their children. They likely see their son walking a path of destruction and want to stop it before it happens. They likely thought that his having a full-time girlfriend was a bad idea, since he can barely manage his life. The want to control his behavior in the best way they know how. Because they love him. They want nothing but the best for him. And their definition of "the best" may be different than yours.

I know it's hard to give parents a break, but you need to start giving parents a break if you plan on being an adult. Parents do their best. (I'm not a parent myself, so I can only speak from 37 years of experience with my own and with my friends' parents.) They really have their children's interest in mind, not their children's girlfriends'interests! Can you blame them? They've knonw him all his life...They've know you ... what... 8 months?

Your goodness is likely not lost on them. But, it's likely not enough for them to love and approve of your relationship with their son. You are a wonderful, warm person, but their experience as parents has resulted in their making decisions that aren't always popular. And they have to make decisions every day with their son.

When you say that "every time they start to like me again, he always has to find someway to ruing it," it sounds like he's sabotaging your relationship for some reason. Have you thought of why he'd do this? Maybe he's having a hard time choosing between his life as a child and his life as an adult. Believe me, it's a tough choice. It's nice and warm in that house! Parents are fun to come home to! They feed you, love you, act concerned. It's a very tempting place to stay. He's likely very torn, and, as a 19 year old, he sounds pretty healthy in that way. But, if he's violent, you need to stay away. Period. Reacting violently is OK when you're 3 or 4 years old, but not 19. He needs to find the ability to calm his temper around you (and everyone else!)

He's probably not staying with you just because you're responsible. More, he likes the attention and the companionship. Never over-estimate a 19-year-old boy's emotional ability. They're simply not that bright when it comes to relationships!

You asked:
"how should i act mature about it?"

Acting maturely is different than "being" mature. Being responsible is a matter of trusting your conscience. Your ethics. Stay in touch with those. Act on your ethics, not on your emotions. Don't be selfish, but don't be too giving either. He's his own person. You are too. You both need room to grow and get strong on your OWN terms! You're far too young to be defined by a boy, don't you think?

My advice is always the same when people sound too desperate over a relationship: find your own happiness. Find your own potential, develop your own strengths, do things you like to do. Be independent.

Don't need anyone. Don't need anyone. Don't need anyone!

Just get married and have lots of children. What this world needs is more children. Define yourself by who you're with. Become a wife, and don't try to conquer anything but motherhood and wifehood. I'm sure that the man you choose now will be there for you for the rest of your life. Watch lots of movies and take your lessons from them. You will live happily ever after.

peace.